Little victories

It's a rare person who has lots of opportunities for big wins in the course of a month or a week or even a year. Much more it's the little things that add up and make a big difference.
Today's little win was when I was standing near the front door and noticed a flashing light outside. Within 30 seconds I realized it was the garbage truck approaching our house quickly. I opened the garage door ducking underneath it as soon as I could. Grabbing the very heavy and full can I hurried to the curb just as they were finishing our neighbor's.
I smiled and wished him a good day. He thought I was a bit odd but for me at least it really was a good day.

"A game for real men"

I recently saw this on the side of a page on Facebook.  It's in Dutch because I live in Holland, and it means "[a] game for real men." I'm sure this is true because it's on the internet, it's in an ad, and of course most certainly because a group of game designers, software engineers, and online marketing people have a deep and nuanced view of what the essence of masculinity is, gender roles & performance, and how to best create games not just for men, but "real" mean.  I've bought into some of this kind of silliness (or should I outright call it crap) and it's just not a helpful kind of thing for the most part. I'm tired of this kind of thing, even if it's a silly ad for a silly game. Let me decide what I think a man is, who I am, and who I want to be. I don't need artificial distinctions between "real" mean and faux men. It just doesn't serve me well, and I question whether it serves anyone at all.